Christian Parental Rights Threatened

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The rights of all fundamentalist Christian parents are being threatened by the current Texas case. Members of a group are being stripped of their children based on simply the “potential” for abuse–not based on actual crimes–all resulting from a court order resulting from what has been proven to be a false report. If you homeschool, spank your children, or ascribe to any other worldview that is at odds with society as a whole, you run the risk of being labeled part of a group that has the “potential” to abuse your children. This is scary stuff for any loving parent who ascribes to a Biblical worldview.

Read this article for details: http://www.blacklistednews.com/iNP/view.asp?ID=6369

Works for me Wednesday: Making the most of BulkFoods.com

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I got a tip about BulkFoods.com from a previous edition of “Works for me Wednesday” (for more tips, visit Shannon at Rocks in my Dryer). I thought it might be helpful to share a bit about my visit there in order to help you optimize yours.

BulkFoods.com specializes in bulk candies, but they also offer many baking staples (spices, herbs, grains), seeds, beans, and various types of nutritional supplements.

If you order there, you need to take advantage of the FREE SHIPPING FOR ORDERS OVER $75. Honestly, spending $75 is not a problem, and with shipping charges being what they are I don’t imagine that BulkFoods.com would be that much of a savings if you order less than $75 and then pay shipping additional on top of what you order. Also, it is important to note that the unit cost of all items is lower as you order larger quantities. I tried to order the maximum of every item, but it does make your shopping cart total add up rather quickly.Personally, I think that helped me to seriously consider what I “needed” to be purchasing. 🙂

My first question was, how does BulkFoods.com compare with my usual shopping at Sam’s Club? I usually do Sam’s once a month. I don’t clip coupons. I don’t shop sales. I just get the bare-bones basics at Sam’s and we make do with what we have. It works for us. Sam’s Club prices are good, and the Click-n-Pull service is just the icing on the cake.

I spent about an hour cross-referencing SamsClub.com with BulkFoods.com, comparing various things that I would normally buy (nuts, raisins, yeast, dry milk–which, by the way, they don’t always have at my local Sam’s and which is cheaper at Aldi anyway).

One thing that I have always wished that they carried at Sam’s is dry beans–and that is one thing that I found to be a pretty decent deal at BulkFoods.com. I LOVE their bean soup mix! I don’t think that the beans are comparatively much cheaper than what you can get at your local grocery store, but since I was shopping anyway (and wanted to take advantage of the free shipping), I added the beans to my cart because I didn’t feel that they were “over-priced.”

Most other standard items (like the ones I listed above) were hands-down cheaper at Sam’s. However, the prices may compare more favorably to standard grocery prices (particularly yeast, which I have always found to be outrageously expensive anywhere but Sam’s Club).

The items I ended up purchasing at BulkFoods.com were the “unique” items that I’ve only seen there and that I can’t purchase locally. On those items, their prices compared favorably to other online sources.

For example, I got some citric acid to make cottage cheese. I also found that it is a great JUICE EXTENDER! I mix a bottle of juice with a bottle of water and add a few tablespoons of citric acid. The kids can barely tell the difference! 🙂 (There is even a recipe for cottage cheese on the Web site, BTW.)

I got some of their powdered chicken soup base, which I prefer to the individual bouillion cubes I get at Sam’s. I also like their cream soup base. Granted, if I wanted to make a cream soup or sauce, I could go by my usual recipe and use standard ingredients, BUT the powdered base has been a real time-saver and worth the price. I’ve used it to make a quick cream of tomato soup, an alfredo sauce for pasta, and a cheddar cheese sauce for broccoli. All you do is whisk 8 T. of soup base (about 1/2 c.) with 2 c. of water, simmer for 15 min. or so, and then add a small can of tomato paste (for soup), 1/2 c. or so of parmesan cheese (for an alfredo-type sauce) or 1/2 c. of cheddar cheese. I’ve also whisked a few tablespoons of the base into chicken broth for use in chicken pot pie.

A friend of mine whose son has various food allergies was thrilled to get some rice flour at BulkFoods.com. She also mentioned that they prefer the flavor of sea salt to regular table salt, and BulkFoods also has sea salt at competitive prices.

So that’s my $ .02 on BulkFoods.com, which (in conjunction with Sam’s Club) has become a once-a-month regular place to stock up. It Works for Me!

Why I Love Dandelions

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Yesterday I got my first dandelions of the season. My beautiful two year-old came to the front door with five dandelion heads squashed in her chubby fist: “Opee da doe [that’s “open the door”], I fowers fo’ YOU, Mom! [“I have flowers for YOU, Mom!”]
I sigh. But not one of those exasperated sighs that my children sometimes hear. No, one of those sighs of sweet memories. She’s the fifth child to bring me one of my most favorite things: dandelions. And not just any dandelions. Beautiful, half-dead-by-the-time-I-get-them dandelion heads. You can see them in the photo on my “keepsake” window sill over the kitchen sink. I have to smile every time I see them. Why? Because of her innocence. Her joy. Her love in bringing me the prettiest thing she could find.
And, yet, looking at these dandelions brings me a twinge of regret, too. Because I know that next year she’ll bring me dandelions that actually have stems. I can put them in water. The Spring after that, she’ll probably realize that dandelions are just weeds. So she’ll bring me some of the daffodils that are just peeking their heads out of the garden beds. The next season, likely she’ll be too big and too busy to bring me any flowers at all. (Sigh).
It just makes me wonder how many precious moments I “don’t” see. How many sweet things my kids do…how they are TODAY, that I don’t fully appreciate. What will I remember in 5 years? What WON’T I remember? Getting dandelions just makes me want to savor every moment of this day with my little ones. Pretty soon, they will be only memories. I’m crying just thinking about it…

I’m Thankful :)

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They say a picture is worth a thousand words, so here’s a picture from yesterday…it’s of Marc and all but one of the kids (the six month-old) outside working in the rabbit pen:


What does this picture say? Well, to me, lots of things. And they all have to do with thankfulness.

I am thankful that we can (on relatively short notice) take a Friday “off” and enjoy it together as a family.

I am thankful for the beautiful Spring weather that we’ve been enjoying lately.

I am thankful for my children.Their photo just reminds me why each one is special. What would I do without any ONE of them?

I am thankful for my husband, who is such a wonderful father and would rather WORK with his children on his day off than do just about anything else (at least, he is kind enough to say so).

And, I am thankful to the Lord for graciously giving us all good things to enjoy.

Works for me Wednesday: It’s all about Perspective

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I haven’t done a “Works for me Wednesday” in a while–though I’m sure Shannon hasn’t noticed ;). Honestly, I don’t have time for a long post right now, since my wee ones will be waking up from afternoon naps soon AND I have some cookies to make for a “play date” tomorrow AND I still don’t even know WHAT I’m making for supper! Not only that, but we’ve been busy with various things, including Cindy Rushton’s ULTIMATE HOMESCHOOL EXPO! (Can you tell we’re excited about it? If you homeschool and you haven’t checked it out, you really should–it’s an amazing VIRTUAL conference with tons of awesome workshops and lots of FREEBIES–my favorite!)
…ANYWAY…
I did have something on my heart that I wanted to write about–something that WORKS FOR ME today! It’s all about perspective.
If you’re anything like me, sometimes you get focused on the wrong stuff. Life gets busy and you just need to get the laundry done. Just want the kids to “behave.” Have to DO all the stuff on your to-do list…BUT it often seems like the harder you try, the more stumbling blocks you find in your path. Why? Personally, that happens to me when I am focused on what *I* want, think, or feel. Difficulties and challenges are often just gentle reminders that GOD may have other plans.
Or, it may be that I just need a new perspective. It’s not that those “things” don’t NEED to get done. Or that God doesn’t want me to do them. But He wants me to do what needs doing, with the right HEART ATTITUDE. And sometimes I don’t have that. I get going on a project or start off moving in a certain direction and I get tunnel vision…sort of like a hound dog with his nose to the ground following a trail. He’d probably bump his head into a brick wall because he failed to look up. And sometimes, I fail to look “up,” too! Do you?
What has really been working for me lately is to try to keep the proper perspective on things. It can be tough to do in the busyness of life, but it’s a necessary effort. I’m continually reminding myself that it’s not so much about what we’re doing as about how we’re doing it. And I got a nice reminder on that this morning from my boys, so I wanted to share it.

Yesterday, the boys had gone outside with the assignment of cleaning the yard. (If your kids are anything like mine, they have lots of outdoor toys, do projects, and just leave stuff laying around until we let them know that it’s just not acceptable). Anyway, they started off working pretty hard but it was SO nice. And there was this tree house project that they had been working on, which they could return to, if only their work was done. So in the end, I think the effort was pretty half-hearted. Certainly not the diligent work that I’d have liked to see. It became painfully obvious to me only after looking out over the yard from my bedroom window this morning–and I could see many, many things still littering the lawn. But, they didn’t have the benefit of my perspective. We have a big yard, and they are relatively little people. They got tired of traipsing all over the place. And, yes, they did want to play. Mostly, though, I just don’t think they could “see” everything that I saw from my vantage point at the window.
So this morning, I sent them upstairs to look out of my window. I wanted them to see where all the “stuff” was, and then go out and take care of it. They did a MUCH better job. And it was all about perspective, they agreed.

It was just one more reminder to me that I need to have the right perspective on all of my “doings.” It’s not about me, it’s about God. It’s not about my plans, but His. And we may be in agreement about what needs to be done, but He also wants it done with the right heart-attitude. Outlook is everything.
“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:9, NIV)

Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!
“Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?”
“Who has ever given to God, that God should repay him?”
For from him and through him and to him are all things.
To him be the glory forever! Amen. (Romans 11:33-36, NIV)

Outward Chaos, Inner Peace

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Maybe you don’t suffer from the same perfectionist tendencies that I do. But I can’t count the number of times that my husband has laughed at me for being unable to walk by the end table and NOT straighten up the stack of books. Or leave the forgotten (name the toy) in the middle of the living room floor–even when more pressing things are going on. So as you can imagine, I would normally be perturbed (to a great degree, in fact) about the condition of my home yesterday afternoon:

However, I found myself rather at peace inwardly, in spite of the disorder on the outside. Why? I don’t know. Honestly, it was a bit unusual. But instead of being in a rush to DO all the “stuff,” I was praising God for a BEAUTIFUL Spring afternoon. Glad that my kids could FINALLY be playing outside…and wanting to be outside to enjoy it with them! So I was in and out, doing a little of this and a little of that in the house (because, as you can see, there was a great deal to do!) AND hanging out enjoying my kids and the beautiful weather.

I was also trying not to focus on the immense amount of work that our Sam’s Club trip & other errands were (even given that we used Click ‘n Pull, which–IMHO–is a God-send!). Instead, I was just SOOOO thankful for NEW FOOD!! The last week of March was a stretch, as our grocery budget isn’t going as far as it used to.

And, at 4:15–when I realized that if I kept up my current pace the house would continue in this downward-spiraling direction and we wouldn’t eat dinner until 6:30–I called the kids in from outside for an Emergency Clean-up. One boy put away clean dishes and washed a few more. Another did “clutter control” and put away a bunch of the things that were laying around. The girls put their laundry away and set the table for supper. I finished putting *most* of the groceries away and had one of the boys drag the cart outside. (Praise God for the cart!!) A concerted half-hour effort actually normalized things amazingly well.

The wood pile (or, rather, where the wood pile WAS) is still in need of cleaning. And today I DEFINITELY have to attack that huge laundry pile. But in spite of the chaos, yesterday was a great day.

You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)

Preparatory Work

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Our children are pretty well-trained to help out around the house. They have scheduled chores that they do on a daily basis, but I can also ask them to give me a hand with odds and ends that are needed throughout the day.


However, sometimes they need help in order to be so helpful to me.  For example: as my little ones napped this afternoon, I thought ahead to what job they would be doing when they got up…dishes! Now, one can wash and the other can rinse, but they aren’t yet proficient at putting in “just enough” dish liquid or getting the water temperature just right. For that matter, they get a bit frustrated by things that are too heavy for their little hands, or pans that are too tough for them to scrub. So my job—before they did their job—was to wash a couple of pots and pans, then make sure the sink was just full enough of warm water and bubbles. As I blog, my three and five year-old daughters are now busily washing and rinsing

the remaining dishes! They are not even aware of the work that I did beforehand.


How does this relate to family and ministry? Well, sometimes (given the number of young children we have), I wonder if we’re “doing” enough. We want our children to have a heart for the lost and to be “ministry minded”—but if actual, hands-on opportunities get to be few and far between, how do we facilitate this process?

It helps me to remember that in ministry (just as in this example with my girls) there is the work that we immediately associate with a given task. But there is also preparatory (and often unseen) work as well.

So even though, as a family with lots of “littles,” I’m not (ever) out there witnessing in the streets, I try to think of what we can do to help out before, during, or after others (like my husband) do the actual work of the ministry. At one time, I helped out by making lists of visitation possibilities for evangelistic outreach. I also followed up with phone calls after the visits. When we know of someone who is doing the work of evangelism, we pray for them and for those with whom they come into contact. Prayer is an important, unseen work in the process of sharing the gospel!

We can also encourage others in their ministry, whatever it might be, by sending cards or making occasional phone calls. Letting people know that we are praying for them or that their work is appreciated is never a wasted effort. Such encouragements often provide a boost to someone who may be weary in serving, and can be an impetus for them to press on in whatever God has called them to do.

As parents, we are constantly engaged in “preparatory work” when we make the effort that is needed to disciple our children: training, instructing, encouraging, and disciplining them. We help our children to grow in Christlike character as we live a life of example, teach from God’s Word, encourage proper behaviors, and correct misbehavior—always with their heart and their relationship with the Lord in mind. So when we do get an opportunity to engage in more active (or “obvious”) ministry as a family, we are all prepared to be a true witness for Christ, glorifying Him in the way that we behave.

So if you, like me, are a home mom, don’t be discouraged because you are not “doing” any ministry. Think about how you, and your children along with you, can continually participate in others’ efforts—even (and especially) in unseen ways. And remember that very moment of every day, you are on the front lines, preparing your children for a lifetime of serving the Lord.

Newest Members of the Carrier Family

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We are excited to have gotten our new goats! The brown and white one is named Cassie, and the white one is Pixie. Cassie is already milking, and Pixie is supposed to kid sometime in April.

Of course, there is a bit of a learning curve on the goat thing for us. We’ve never milked a goat but have enjoyed learning about it (a good article, with pictures, on wikiHow), and we have some very informative resources like “The Encyclopedia of Country Living” and “Barnyard in Your Backyard,” in particular.

Oh, and I had a great chat the other day about “Integrating Little Ones into Your Homeschool” on Cindy Rushton‘s Talk-a-Latte program–ramping up for her Ultimate Homeschool Expo–can’t wait for that!! If you aren’t able to go to your local homeschool convention, definitely attend this one; it’s ALL online! Anyway, during the chat I mentioned the new goats, and someone asked me for good Web links to research the topic. I didn’t remember any off-hand. I asked her to email me…and she didn’t, but maybe she’ll visit our blog–or the link will help someone else. 🙂 There is a forum with some “101”-type information at http://www.dairygoatinfo.com/. Another good starting point is http://www.goatwisdom.com/. Finally, try http://fiascofarm.com/goats/index.htm or http://www.homesteadingtoday.com/ (this is a great forum with information on raising all kinds of animals!). Too much information?! Yeah, right now we’re a bit overloaded…but it’s been fun.

One of the things we were concerned about was that we’d invest a lot in goats, fencing, supplies, and so on…and we wouldn’t like the milk. But, we’re happy to report that it tastes much like cow’s milk and everybody loves it! Of course, we’re probably getting less than we should, given that we’re novices at the whole milking thing…and the bucket is getting stepped in and tipped over until she gets used to us and we get used to her. But, so far so good. We’re pressing on. 🙂

Homeschooling with Little Ones on wikiHow

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How to Homeschool With Infants, Toddlers, or Preschoolers

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit

Maybe you have been successfully homeschooling older children. You have developed your academic goals for them and have chosen a curriculum or method and materials that work well for you. But what happens when you add infants, toddlers, or preschoolers into the mix? How do you adequately nurture the little ones without compromising the educational needs of your older children, neglecting your home management responsibilities, or missing out on the joy of day-to-day life as a family? Following these steps can help!

Steps

  1. Prioritize. Make sure to put first things first. Priorities will be different for each family, and different tasks have to be juggled on different days, with varying levels of importance–so this is a very fluid process. Our priorities: faith, family relationships, discipleship of our children, academic learning, and home management. Not everything needs to be done perfectly every day. The idea is that in the long-haul all your goals will be met. Remember that when you homeschool, it’s 24/7/365, not from 8:00 AM to 3:00 PM, Monday through Friday, 180 days a year. Some days it seems that we have to emphasize character-building issues and it may be a temporary frustration not to do so much “schooling,” but we catch up quite easily on other days. It’s a balance–so set your priorities and keep them in some kind of order, day by day.
  2. Develop a good routine. “Schedule,” maybe–if it works and doesn’t become a hard task-master for you. Routine, DEFINITELY. Everything goes much smoother if everyone knows what to “generally” expect in the course of each day. Make time for Bible reading and prayer if this is a priority for you. Fit in chores, school time, free time for the children, some family time, extra-curricular activities (well-considered), and whatever else is on your priority list.
  3. Integrate life and school. As much as possible, consider how multiple objectives can be met concurrently. Some of the things that need “doing”: taking care of the baby, keeping the young ones occupied during school time, schooling the older kids, character training, home management and perhaps ministry or service within the community. And of course, it’s important to always enjoy just being a family! Some examples of integration: let one of your older children spend some time rocking the baby while they listen to a teaching tape or watch an educational video. Have a daily 30-minute chore time (or two, 30-minute chore times) during which everyone helps in some aspect of home management or food preparation. At the same time, do math drills out loud, Mom can read aloud to the kids while they work, or verbally review what the children have learned in their lessons during the morning or the day before. Let the little ones use the math manipulatives that the older kids are using or scribble on paper while the big kids do their writing. It may be a bit distracting, but it keeps the family unified and lets the little ones feel included–thus, they are often less disruptive.
  4. Integrate multiple subject areas. Think about how you can kill many birds with one stone in academic learning by doing a Unit Study on a topic of interest. Use your science or history textbook as a springboard for theme-related ideas that you can flesh out with different activities. A quick search online will usually result in many great ideas, no matter what topic you want to cover. One example: One science topic on our list of objectives was to study the human body systems. We read a library book on body systems (SCIENCE), then (for LANGUAGE ARTS), we reviewed how to use a dictionary. The younger children used a simple kids’ dictionary and the older used a standard dictionary. Each child looked up different words related to the topic. (For example, the first grader looked up things like “brain,” “stomach,” and “lungs,” while the third grader defined things like “system,” “organ,” and so on.) They wrote words and definitions, then a short summary of what we had read. To integrate MATH, we compared the interrelated body systems to the interrelation of different mathematical operations (i.e., addition as the opposite of subtraction, and multiplication and division as inverse operations). Integrating social studies in this case was a bit challenging so we simply did some book work at a later time. Integration is great, but it doesn’t have to be all-or-none. You can purchase many unit study materials, but a little creativity and an Internet connection sometimes suffices just as well. Also consider how the arts and different subject areas can be integrated just through journaling and “living books,” as in the Charlotte Mason approach.
  5. Expect and train your younger children (toddlers and preschoolers) to occupy themselves with a single activity for at least 20-30 minutes during school time. Activities in a bag or box are good for this (many ideas online, free or for purchase). Help them enjoy reading by giving them quality picture books and simple stories for an independent “reading time.”
  6. Meet the unique needs of your little ones. Balance quiet times with more physical activities. Keep them well-hydrated and offer small,healthy, mid-morning snacks. Fill them up with some “Mommy time” before their more independent play period. Finally, don’t expect them to tend to a task or activity for much more than 20-30 minutes.

Tips

  • Always supervise your little ones visually, even if they are expected to be doing something independently.
  • Be willing to invest time in training your children–this makes the process of academic learning much smoother, when it happens.
  • Don’t forget, you are a family first–so no matter what you are “doing,” make it a priority to love and enjoy one another.

Warnings

  • Again, always adequately supervise your little ones. With multiple ages of chilren, it’s easy for little ones to grab little things that are potential choking hazards, or for them to wander off and find trouble while mom is addressing a schooling issue with one of the other children!

Sources and Citations

  • The original content for this how-to was developed from “The Growing Homeschool: Integrating Babies and Toddlers into Your Already Busy Schedule” by Cynthia Carrier. [1].

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Works for me Wednesday: Everyday Forgiveness

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When I woke up this morning, I thought, “Wow, it’s Wednesday already!” I was not feeling very inspired about Works for me Wednesday (Sorry, Shannon!)…but I didn’t NOT want to participate.

It’s been one of those days. Actually, I’ve been having a few of “those days.” Many of the things I should be doing, I haven’t been. And the things I didn’t want to do, well, there they are (read more about that here). So you can see why I wasn’t feeling very gung-ho about Works for me Wednesday.

But, as we went out and about in town this morning–listening to some good music on the way–I was reminded that I’M NOT PERFECT. I was also reminded, though, that I still am PERFECTLY FORGIVEN. And I am so thankful for that.

This isn’t a cyber-altar call, folks, so don’t get nervous (or offended). For a good rundown on that all-important stuff, click here. What I want to talk about is the everyday gospel–everyday “good news”–everyday forgiveness.

I remember a friend of mine, years ago, complaining about her holier-than-thou brother and sister-in-law. They so turned her off because of their religiousity. On the other hand, she’d seen my kids run away when I called them to come to me…and I probably raised my voice once or twice, too. And, although I can’t say I was pleased about it at the time–and I thought I was such a poor witness for Christ–I got to say to her, in all honesty, “Honey, I’M NOT PERFECT. I’m just PERFECTLY FORGIVEN.” That’s the truth, and I’m sticking with it.

Salvation, for me, wasn’t saying a magic prayer and carrying on with life as usual. Jesus changed me. Because of Jesus, I see the ugliness that is in me. I hate it. I so want to be better than that. If left to my own devices, I could not forgive myself. But I know that Jesus forgives me. Not just when I said the “Jesus, come into my heart” prayer…but every day. Every moment of every day, if I need it. And sometimes I feel like I do. An awesome song that always makes me cry is called “God Loves You,” sung by Charlie and Jill LeBlanc and the worship team at Joyce Meyer Ministries. (It’s on a CD called “Intimate Moments,” and–as an aside–I am SO bummed that I lost mine because it’s no longer being prduced.) Anyway, it goes like this:

Well every person fails
And every man needs love to pick him up, time after time
This world can use you up
And leave you with a world of care
Where hope used to shine.
But God can give you strength
When all you’ve done is fall,
So say it ’till you understand,
And tell me, do you really understand?

God loves you
and made you for the pleasure of knowing you…
God loves you
and made you for the pleasure of showing you
that God loves you.

At times like this, I just have to keep reminding myself that God loves me anyway. Even when I don’t love myself.

I went to a local church with my kids somewhat recently for a special service. A visiting minister shared a sermon and then spent some time praying for people. I had to sneak out early (10 PM…early?!), but he stopped me before I got out the door to pray for me and for my children. I felt like God spoke to me. Here is what he said (the minister, not exactly God…),

“You’re not Super Woman.” (Agreed. Preach it, brother!)

“You’re not a super wife.” (Well, not always, no.)

“You’re not a super mother.” (Okay, now you’re going too far, guy!) But then he spoke what I have always felt is my life statement:

“But you are doing the very best you can. And what you can’t do, God can.”

So today, I am thanking God again for the gift of my salvation through Jesus Christ. I need Him. I need His forgiveness. Every day. That really works for me.